Change the Face of Feminism

Why I Hate What Feminism Has Become

Oh, I bet that got your attention. 

Women everywhere are scowling at their computers, hovering over the "X" in the corner of the screen.

Before you jump to conclusions, though, let me explain: I'M NOT WRITING THIS TO BE TRENDY. I'm not writing this to say that the concept of feminism isn't a substantial cause. 

According to Webster's, the definition of "feminism" is as follows:

"the advocacy of women's rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men."

I wish I could rewrite the definition. I wish I could make it less petty; less belligerent.

Do I want and deserve to be treated like the beautifully intelligent woman that I am?

Absolutely. So you know what I'm going to do to make dang sure that happens?

I'M GOING TO BE THAT WOMAN. 

I am going to embody strength, dignity, love, intelligence and wit in every step that I take.

I'm not going to stop shaving my legs,

I'm not going to pound on my chest at the sight of a coworker's failure,

I'm not going to lay the burden of my hostility on the shoulders of men.

I refuse. 

Why, you ask?

Because the issue isn't about gender anymore, the issue is about a lack of moral integrity and a giant barrier between patronization and acceptance.

Men don't have to give up their dignity in order for women to gain it.
That's simply not how it works. 

I'm so sick of hearing women say things like "All men are pigs."

No, seriously. I actually get offended at the sound of that sentence rolling off of tongues like it's second nature.

 I have two brothers, a father, a boyfriend and many dear friends who resemble nothing of the sort. 

In fact, I only surround myself with people who better me. People who engage me in intelligent, meaningful conversations. People who challenge me to love deeper and reach further. And guess what, my friends? You better believe that half of them have dangling anatomy.

Feminism took a wrong turn somewhere. Maybe it wasn't supposed to be a competition. 

When did it become essential to have a "winner," anyway? 

I'm not talking about it an "everybody gets a trophy" kind of way.

I'm saying, why is it that in order for somebody to succeed, somebody has to fail?
This movement was created so that women could gain justice, and I'm 100% on board.
What it's become, though, is a series of stabs that only promotes the prejudice behavior that we're trying to demolish.

From a marketing standpoint, we need to fix this.
In a world where ignorance has butchered the word "feminist," it's time to take a different approach and start portraying truth about our capabilities through the way that we LIVE. Through every ounce of our being.

 THAT'S how we get justice.
 I'm not saying it's wrong to be a voice and advocate for what's right and wrong, but I certainly don't think it's necessary to tear other people down in the process.
 And no, that wasn't what it was ever supposed to be.. But that's what it's become, like it or not. 

Just to be clear, I want more than anything for my daughters to grow up in a world based on NO type of prejudice. And the way to make that happen is to provide a non-judgemental, free spirited, and loving environment and know that we can steer humanity toward equality by exemplifying it in the way that we live. 

It's about more than being a man or a woman. Heck, you get to choose which you are now anyway!

(Too soon?)

But seriously, it's about equality. It's about acceptance. It's about LOVE. 

Cheers,

Lindsay T.